OCBC Spiritual Practices Book Group: 2012

Monday, October 29, 2012

No Group tonight 10/29 because of the storm

As the weather forecast becomes more certain, we'll cancel tonight's meeting and combine our discussion on this chapter with chapter 11 in November.

Eat mindfully today as you are home.

Sunday, September 30, 2012

September Hospitality Highlights, looking to October

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning is a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
[S]he may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

-Rumi
Found here.

This poem made us stop and think about hospitality to ourselves in a new way.

We had a good discussion about how we can be welcoming at church, with the reminder to all of us that we need to keep our eyes out for people who need to be greeted and welcomed and not get caught up in business. We also realized that we have to authentic in our greeting, true to who we are. We want to welcome everyone, but as a church we may not be the right fit for everyone--like people who want to get lost in the crowd and not be greeted!

October is chapter 10: what would Jesus eat? We've had wonderful shared meals--this will put us on our mettle!

We'll have three more months for this book. We had a brief discussion about what we want to do or read after this, so please be thinking about what you might want: another book, continuing the group in focusing on spiritual practices, ...

August and September

In August we were grateful for finding someone with a key to the room where we met because the meeting space we'd planned on was in use, for a busy church building where many good things are going on, and for our Angel who came to drive us to the tow yard where a couple of us had accidentally had our cars towed while meeting. It's easy to be thankful for the great things that happen, harder when called to look past the clouds and find what to be grateful for and name it the silver lining.

For a number of years, each morning just after I get up, after my morning stretches and prayers, I open a little notebook and make a list of five things that I am grateful for. Some mornings I can acknowledge friends or loved ones, little moments of grace, a particularly good thing that happened, or something wonderful that someone said or did. Other mornings it's things like the morning glories,tea, heat, sleep, or aspirin. Sometimes the list comes out pouring out quickly, and sometimes the kettle has boiled, the tea has brewed and the cup is half gone before I get to five. But I always get to at least five. The value of this practice is the way it sets the tone for my day. Starting the day with gratitude makes an incredible difference. It's practice, so that when things happen like getting your car towed you can be grateful that you have the church administrator's cell phone number and he has yours! It just makes all of life's "stuff" easier to handle.

I got the idea originally from Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy by Sarah Ban Breathnach, and I think Oprah even publicized it. No matter—it's a wonderful practice, and I invited and invite everyone to see what a difference it can make to your day. Pick some regular time and commit to doing it. I'm a morning person, so that's when I do it. It can also be a great winding down practice for the end of your day. You can even just start with doing it as a part of your Sabbath practice. (See all of these practices really do have a cumulative effect!)

In September we are reading chapter 9 on Benedictine Hospitality, and hope that, since we're meeting on the last day of the month, that people have had a chance to practice hospitality sometime during the month!

All guests who present themselves are to be welcomed as Christ, for he himself will say: “I was a stranger and you welcomed me.” — ST. BENEDICT from Riess, Jana (2011-09-24). Flunking Sainthood: A Year of Breaking the Sabbath, Forgetting to Pray and Still Loving My Neighbor (Kindle Locations 1917-1919). Paraclete Press. Kindle Edition.

Someone asked me this week about the passage of scripture that inspired that part of the Benedictine Rule and I suspect it is Job 22 or more likely Matthew 25.

How do you really make people feel at home? We'll share highlights of our discussion.

Friday, July 27, 2012

July to August: Keeping Sabbath and Gratitude

Keeping the Sabbath is hard, we agreed. We don't want to give up our busy-ness.

Reflecting that, we started with this poem by Wendell Berry from Sabbaths (San Francisco: North Point Press, 1987) on what happens when we don't really honor the Sabbath:

Sabbath Poem V, 1980
Six days of work are spent
To make a Sunday quiet
That Sabbath may return.
It comes in unconcern;
We cannot earn or buy it.
Suppose rest is not sent
Or comes and goes unknown,
The light, unseen, unshown.
Suppose the day begins
In wrath at circumstance,
Or anger at one’s friends
In vain self-innocence
False to the very light,
Breaking the sun in half,
Or anger at oneself
Whose controverting will
Would have the sun stand still.
The world is lost in loss
Of patience; the old curse
Returns, and is made worse
As newly justified.
In hopeless fret and fuss,
In rage at worldly plight
Creation is defied,
All order is unpropped,
All light and singing stopped.

Reflecting on the commandment:

Exodus 20.8-10 (NRSV)

Remember the sabbath day, and keep it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work. But the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God; you shall not do any work—you, your son or your daughter, your male or female slave, your livestock, or the alien resident in your towns.

Other than the rules that Jana Reiss describes and breaks about the orthodox Sabbath, what does Sabbath mean to Jews who keep the Sabbath? We listened to "Shabbat, Shabbat Shalom" to get a sense of the joy of the sabbath and the peace of the sabbath that we seek.

We asked: what does it mean not to do work? What does it mean to make time for the holy in our lives? Why is it that naming someone a workaholic seems like a compliment? We realized that we struggle with this as Abraham Joshua Heschel captures in this quote:

Indeed, we know what to do with space but do not know what to do about time, expect to make it subservient to space. Most of us seem to labor for the sake of things of space. As a result we suffer from a deeply rooted dread of time and stand aghast when compelled to look into its face.

(Abraham Joshua Heschel, The Sabbath, New York: Farrar, Strauss, Giroux, 1951, p. 5)

We fear time? Joan Chittister reflects on this in Songs of the Heart (New London, CT: Twenty-Third Publications, 2011) using this verse from Psalm 103 (p. 62):

As for us, our days are like grass; We flower .. the wind blows ... We are gone.

She also shares this quote from Carl Sandburg that captures the way we clutch to time (p. 63):

Time is the only coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.

But in her chapter on the Sabbath, she quotes Alice Walker to put it in perspective (p. 99):

Anybody can observe the Sabbath but making it holy surely takes the rest of the week.

We agreed that we know and feel the presence of the holy, often in worship and in community and in communion, and the challenge is to take that home or make it at home. We've found that to be most successful when we plan ahead to avoid the bustle of getting dinner on the table (the crock pot discussion at the beginning of our wonderful shared meal came up again!) and to sing or listen to music to bring the holy into our time and to read spiritual reading material rather than mysteries or the newspaper: the Bible, devotionals, poetry. Walks along the water and in nature also captured the holy.

We ending our Sabbath discussion listening to Serenity by Charles Ives, sung by Jan De Gaetani:

O, Sabbath rest of Galilee!

O, calm of hills above,

Where Jesus knelt to share with Thee,

the silence of eternity

Interpreted by love.

Drop Thy still dews of quietness,

till all our strivings cease:

Take from our souls the strain and stress,

and let our ordered lives confess,

the beauty of thy peace.

by John Greenleaf Whittier (1807-1892) , "The Brewing of Soma", from The Pennsylvania Pilgrim, and Other Poems, published 1872

With one more Sunday in July, we still have an opportunity to seek and know the peace of the Sabbath and to find that holy time.

Looking Forward to August

In August we are reading chapter 8 on Gratitude.

I recommended that people begin keeping a Gratitude Journal, something I heard about in several places a number of years ago: from reading Simple Abundance; from the research done on the effects of gratitude; and even from Oprah. What I know that writing the five things I'm grateful for each morning reframes my day and has made an enormous difference in my life.

And I am especially grateful for all who are participating or have participated in this book group!

Saturday, July 14, 2012

June to July: Centering Prayer -> Keeping Sabbath

Some people had success with centering prayer and others did not.
Some long-time meditators in the group liked the Jesus prayer (Lord Jesus Christ, son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner) while that prayer didn't resonate with others. We listened to the audio of the how-to video from Thomas Keating.

Centering Prayer Guidelines

Thomas Keating

Guideline 1

Choose a sacred word as the symbol of your intention to consent to God's presence and action within you. (Examples: Peace; Be still; Shalom; Jesus; I surrender; God is love)

Guideline 2

Sitting comfortably and with eyes closed, settle briefly and silently introduce the sacred word as the symbol of your consent to God's presence and action within.

Guideline 3

When engaged with your thoughts, return ever-so-gently to the sacred word.

We did centering prayer together. We found that Centering Prayer seemed more "successful" when done in a group, than when done at home. This is consistent with what we've discovered each time: our spiritual practices are better supported in community. We decided to include a time of centering prayer in our next session.

Thinking about Sabbath

In July we are talking about ch. 7, keeping the Sabbath, so, in the next couple of weeks, can you try to keep a Sabbath--even a half day (start small and work up?). What does it mean to you in your life to give up the busyness of the world and focus on rest and restoration and the holy?

Blessings on all of you as you travel and as you stay home and as you keep the Sabbath and a holy time for God in your lives.

Monday, June 11, 2012

May: Simplicity-> June: Centering Prayer

Simplicity
We started our May meeting with a reading from Joan Chittister's The Breath of the Soul: Reflections on Prayer, #34 on Simplicity.
She starts with this quote by St. Francis de Sales:

If the heart wanders or is distracted, bring it back to the point quite gently and replace it tenderly in its Master's presence. And even if you did nothing during the whole of your hour but bring your heart back and place it again in our Lord's presence, though it went away every time you brought it back, your hour will be very well employed.

Then she says: "One of the most difficult dimensions of beginning to live a life of prayer [and I would add, any spiritual practice] is to begin it all. What can any of us do that will possibly bridge the gap in life between the self and God?" p.107

The question that the chapter on Nixing Shoppertainment prompted for us:

How does the stuff in your life get in the way of your relationship to God?

There is a void we're trying to fill. We were reminded of the song that started the sermon on January 29. (You can listen to the song in the audio: "There is a longing in our hearts, O God...")

After much discussion, we asked the question: "Who do you know who lives a simple life and what do they do?" The answer: "They do things for others.

Someone recalled a hymn from childhood, Others sung by Tennessee Ernie Ford. "Help me to live for others, that I may live like Thee." We discussed volunteering as a option to shopping and stuff...is it for you?

Favorite lines from this chapter:

This austerity doesn’t resemble the joyfully simple life I am craving. It also doesn’t sound much like a life Jesus would prescribe; after all, the guy’s inaugural miracle occurred at a party where he turned water into wine. Jesus was hardly a killjoy.

Riess, Jana (2011-09-24). Flunking Sainthood: A Year of Breaking the Sabbath, Forgetting to Pray and Still Loving My Neighbor (Kindle Locations 1036-1038). Paraclete Press. Kindle Edition.

When I ponder this, the point of this month’s practice hits me: it’s not just about curbing materialism, though that’s a good thing, or even about not coveting. It’s about taking some choices out of the mix, of letting God’s guidance dictate the basic contours of what I will and won’t do. I’m not just reducing physical clutter by not shopping; I need to reduce spiritual clutter by becoming the kind of Christian who does not covet. I’m going to get off the more, more, more treadmill and set spiritual limits in order to cultivate simplicity. Eureka!

Riess, Jana (2011-09-24). Flunking Sainthood: A Year of Breaking the Sabbath, Forgetting to Pray and Still Loving My Neighbor (Kindle Locations 1139-1143). Paraclete Press. Kindle Edition.

Centering Prayer
In June, we're looking at Centering Prayer as a spiritual practice, based on the work of Thomas Keating. You can visit his website,

or watch a short video about the guidelines of centering prayer by Thomas Keating.

or see a longer video series featuring Cynthia Bourgeault:
Part 1: Overview of the Foundations and Method of Centering Prayer
Part 2: Attention of the Heart
Part 3: Putting the Mind in the Heart

Her work is featured at this website.

The doodle to set the date for our June meeting is going out, and I look forward to how the Spirit will prompt us.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

April Lectio, May Simplicity

In April, we did some lectio divina together. Some people had success in doing it alone, but we found it helpful to do it together. I shared that I had done lectio divina on the passage that I used as a guest preacher the Sunday after Easter, that my ear and heart had been struck by Jesus' repetition of "Peace be with you," as he appeared to the disciples and later to Thomas after his resurrection.

May's chapter in Flunking Sainthood is called "Nixing Shoppertainment" and is about simplifying the "stuff" that you think you need in your life. Some people have already told me that they are thinking of skipping this chapter because other people have told them that they have the opposite problem: they are already too frugal. Since Jana Reiss talks about the "Competitive Frugality" contests that she has when she gets together with her family, I think that this may not be the direction we need to worry about. She's reading Richard Foster's book, Freedom of Simplicity: Finding Harmony in a Complex World, and he is clear that simplicity is more complicated than just being frugal.

Perhaps no work is more foundational to the individual embodying Christian simplicity in the world than our becoming comfortable in our own skin. The less comfortable we are with ourselves, the more we will look to things around us for comfort. The more assured we are with ourselves, the less assurance we will need from things outside us. (Riess, Jana (2011-09-24). Flunking Sainthood: A Year of Breaking the Sabbath, Forgetting to Pray and Still Loving My Neighbor (Kindle Locations 1087-1089). Paraclete Press. Kindle Edition.)

What other ways might we practice simplicity, if it's not just about resisting the temptation of material "things" that bring us feelings of comfort or self-worth? Can being too frugal be a "hair-shirt" that makes us proud and would our pride be something that gets in the way of our relationship with God?

So, join us for this discussion, perhaps yet another discussion of the things that get in our way of a relationship with God.

Sunday, March 25, 2012

March into April

Highlights from our March discussion on Chapter 3

To start off, we read:

Luke 10: 38-42

Psalm 16: 11

The Better Part

by Rachael A. Keefe from her book of Lenten reflections, negotiating the shadows, p. 47-49

Show me this path of life

that leads to fullness of joy

in the pleasures of your presence.

I want to sit as Mary sat

at Your feet

listening

hearing

knowing.

By another's account

Martha clearly saw

what others could not

and recognized You

in her moment of loss and despair.

How could her everyday distractions

turn her attention from sitting with You?

What did it matter

that her house was not clean

and dinner was late

when You walked through her door?

Did she worry about disappointing You

so much that she forgot You

accept her—no perfection

of house, food, or self

required?

How did Mary know

to be still

and listen?

What did she hear that Martha did not?

Walk through my door today.

Call me from my tasks.

The worries and distractions of my day

drown out the still small voice of You.

Pursuing perfection

demands more than I want to give

with too great a price.

Show me Your path

to let go of worry and distraction

to know what is needful

and to choose the better part.

Lively discussion ensued, prompted by seemingly high proportion of attendees who identify with Martha in realizing that someone has to do the cleaning and cook the food.

Summary is that we generally approved of Martha's actions, it was her whining we didn't like, and yet we would like a different ending to that story. (Everyone goes the kitchen and helps, for example.) Remembering our visit the Harvard museums exhibit of the house in the time of Jesus made us realize that crowding into the kitchen may not have been an option, though.

Insights about cleaning and de-cluttering

In response to a remark one person made that cleaning didn't help her feel close to God, another shared this insight: "Getting rid of the clutter helps me to feel not so nudgy; it finds the things that get in the way of a relationship with God; so that contributes to my peace of mind, which brings me close to God."

Another said: "When I cleaned in silence, rather than with music or TV or radio on, I found that my thoughts did turn to God more often while I was cleaning, and I became more focused."

Our favorite quote from this chapter:

God is like that, repairing the world all the time. Even though it’s hard for me to see the spiritual value in menial household chores, there’s something deeply Christian about them. In a brilliant book about the theology of housekeeping, Margaret Kim Peterson says that it’s precisely the never-ending nature of household tasks such as cooking that makes them “so akin to the providential work of God.” Every day, every person in the household needs to be fed—again. We feed them with the knowledge that tomorrow morning, they will wake up hungry and we’ll have to repeat the whole cycle.

Peterson says that our constant round of housework and God’s initial act of creation have something in common: both are about bringing order from chaos. But God doesn’t just put our earthly home into motion and let things take their course; he’s constantly playing housekeeper.

Riess, Jana (2011-09-24). Flunking Sainthood: A Year of Breaking the Sabbath, Forgetting to Pray and Still Loving My Neighbor (Kindle Locations 601-607). Paraclete Press. Kindle Edition.

April: Lectio divination

We tried a sample of lectio divina with Matthew 11:28-30,

reading (lectio)
and then praying about the scripture, (oratio)
reading and listening for one line or phrase that caught our hearts and meditating on that line, (meditatio)
reading and contemplating how we could make that scripture part of our lives. (contemplatio)

We agreed that during April we would try lectio divina, reading a passage of scripture aloud and meditating on what struck our hearts, praying for more insight and connection, and contemplating how the scripture might move into our lives.

Options for Daily Bible Reading with Audio

Here are some links for audio scripture, so that someone else could read the scripture aloud to you:

Different ReadingPlans, all with Audio, English Standard Version Bible

Conference of Catholic Bishops Daily reading, and audio of that reading

Daily Audio Bible: Reading the Bible through in a Year (with commentary)

Our Daily Bread—A Reflection and then a Bible reading

If you want to search for a passage on your own and then hear the audio, try Bible Gateway--it is only by chapter at a time, but good readers.

This is a Lutheran daily reading plan, no audio.

Other Links:

Some of my experiences, exercises and notes about Lectio Divina from the Adult Ed sessions I did several years ago.

The Order of Saint Benedict: Lectio Divina

(Not all of their links work, so I've listed the ones that do below)

The Cloud of Unknowing, chapter 35 (anonymous 14th-century English author).

Armand Nigro, SJ, and John Veltri, SJ, Praying with Scripture.

Luke Dysinger, OSB, Accepting the Embrace of God: The Ancient Art of Lectio Divina (1990).

The Ladder of Four Rungs. 54K text, 140K graphics.

From The Nine Ways of Prayer of St. Dominic (1260-1288).

Abbot Armand Veilleux, OCSO, Lectio Divina as School of Prayer among the Fathers of the Desert (1995).

Lectio with poetry or with other readings besides the Bible

Sunday, February 26, 2012

February into March

We started today's session with this poem:

from Prayers for Hope and Comfort:

February

~Ann Kyle-Brown

February is neither here nor there.

Not holiday.

Not beginning of the school year.

Not New Year.

Not end.

Not ever,

"Finally! February is here!"

Never.

February just is.

It's a Tuesday kind of month.

A 10:15 in the morning kind of time

On a Tuesday

When one is 43.

Not 21.

Not 40.

Not celebratory.

Not married.

Not even engaged.

Not expecting a baby or a raise.

No deadlines looming.

No bulbs blooming yet.

Kind of wet,

An intermittent showers kind of time,

A chance of rain.

Not a chance of winning the lottery.

Not a chance of an unexpected trip to Spain.

No, just an "is" kind of time,

A just plain "is" kind of time,

Just plain.

And I wonder …

Because it is February

And there's time to wonder,

Because not tilling or sowing

Or weeding or reaping,

Just enough of sleeping and getting up

And working and going to bed,

To not be reading,

To not be well read,

… how February fits

Into the scheme of things

And how I fit into the scheme of it.

So think of that Great Schemer,

Our Dear Redeemer

And wonder …

… what did Jesus do in February?

The February before being

In the temple at thirteen.

The February before Canaan.

The February before Golgotha.

Or the February after for that matter,

Floating like a specter forever

Over all of us he loves.

What did Jesus do in February?

And it occurs

That maybe that was when He went to the desert.

He surely couldn't have lasted forty days in July.

Even a Son of God couldn't bear these mortal bones

Over the sandy exile of July.

And suddenly I cry,

Watching the rain falling methodic from the sky,

Adding to the gray lapping of the Bay.

For somehow I know that February is the desert and my job

To be busy avoiding temptation

And remembering why

I listen to the voice of God in the fog

And am stronger for it somehow in July.

Comments on fasting:

Several in our discussion today said that they thought about fasting from food, but did not. They couldn't quite see the purpose. Some did have some moments of fasting from things or from doing things, and that seemed more positive.

From Sue S.: My fast has not been a food one. I took to heart your suggestion to ask ourselves what habits or activities were getting in the way of our relation to God and what kind of a fast might help us spiritually. I didn't have to think for long. One of the habits I have fallen into that I like the least is playing video games when I think I need or deserve "down time". Sudoku, Solitaire, Spider - to name a few. I decided on a total "fast" from any sort of computer game. As a direct result, I have begun playing the piano again - and have done more reading - two things that are definitely feed the spirit more than video games. I have decided to continue the fast, at least through Lent, and then consider whether to remove all games from computer, IPad and IPhone.

From Nancy W.: I had to "fast" for fasting blood work tests, which meant not eating from 5:30 p.m. to 9:30 a.m., so no evening snack, really. And when my doctor said that I needed to pay attention to my weight, I decided that perhaps I would continue that. What I noticed is how much my evening snacking is emotionally driven. I had a conversation with Nancy M. about how she's been dealing with some of her eating patterns—and those included snacking (or not)! I started reading Women, Food, and God by Geneen Roth. Her central questions: how do we use food as a substitute for what is really important and central? How does food become a substitute for our longings and hopes, for God?

Some people have decided to be mindful during Lent by not eating meat, and some others thought that avoiding snacks or not eating meat seemed a more manageable kind of fast.

We discussed that fasting perhaps should include more prayer and mindfulness, and maybe the community element, is important.

We began a discussion about chapter 3, and decided that perhaps we could use some community support around mindfulness and chores, so we set up three small phone groups who will call one another with reminders and to offer support to clean or do chores mindfully. Contact Nancy W. for more info if you were not at this session, and she'll help you link up.

We closed today's session with this poem:

from Kneeling in Jerusalem

The Holy in the Ordinary

~Ann Weems

Holy is the time and holy is this place,

and there are holy things that must be said.

Let us say to one another what our souls whisper …

O Holy One, cast your tent among us;

come into our ordinary lives and bless the living!

Forty days stretch before us,

forty days of hungering after faithfulness,

forty days of trying to understand the story,

and then, Holy Week …

O God, if every week were holy …

These forty days stretch before us,

and those of us who believe

yearn to feel Your presence,

yearn to be Your people;

and yet, the days fill with ordinary things

with no time left

for seeking the holy.

Spiritual contemplation is all right

for those who have the time,

but most of us have to make a living.

Most of us have to live in the real world

where profanity splashes and blots out

anything holy.

Where, O Holy One, can we find You in this unholy mess?

How, O God, can we find the holy in the ordinary?

March: Meeting Jesus in the kitchen … or not

We will be meeting in March, whether or not we have met Jesus in the kitchen through cleaning and chores. A doodle poll with choice of dates is going out via email.

If you want to read The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence, here is a free e-book version.

My personal library also has these books of essays that I am browsing on this topic:

This seemed like a good bridge book from February's fasting:

The Spirit of Food: 34 Writers on Feasting and Fasting toward God, ed. by Leslie Leyland Fields

In the first essay in this book, Wild Fruit, Patty Kirk writes that she does most of the chores because she likes to. "And, although these responsibilities often pile up and become onerous, gathering and preserving fruit is not just another chore. It is my reward."

"Berry-picking is my year's retreat—my 'thin place,' to use a Celtic Christian term from a book I'm reading for a place where one feels unusually aware of God's nearness. Every aspect of berry-picking has spiritual relevance for me. Nothing proves God's abundant love like the provision of huge blackberries among the brambles, arriving in such profusion that the birds and deer and June bugs and my family and friends and I combined can't begin to deplete them. … When I am picking berries, I am in communion with all creation and with God as at no other time."

What is your "thin place" and can you look for it in the somewhat ordinary places of your life? Can we find it in being mindful about every day chores?

Next to Godliness:Finding the Sacred in Housekeeping, ed. by Alice Peck

White China: Finding the Divine in the Everyday by Molly Wolf

Monday, January 23, 2012

Prep for February: Thinking about fasting as prayer

Why fast?
Consider other ways to fast or things to fast from besides just types of food.
Could you fast from something that gets in the way of your relationship with God, or in the way of your connection to that which is greater than you?
How can we support you in the fast you choose?

Types of fasting and prayer (click the links for more info):